November 10, 2015

Dear Natdem,

Happy Monthsary! I love you!

I have lost count of how many months we have been together. I have lost count on the number days we are in this relationship. I have even somehow forgotten that yesterday was our monthsary. Although I have stopped counting, or I have not remembered particular days, one thing remains constant, that I have not stopped loving you and be deeply grateful for the love you have reciprocated.

I am so sorry that I cannot give you any gift for this monthsary. I am so sorry that I have been a burden to you physically, emotionally, spiritually, and even financially. I am sorry that you have to pay for our dates, and even for my bus ticket home. I am sorry that in spite of this,  I sometimes make you feel unappreciated and neglected. I am sorry that I throw words at you of which you are most undeserving.

 I am sorry because I have not kept my promise to you when we were younger. I did not do my part. I know that my promise was to become a lawyer so that you never have to go abroad. I am sorry that because of me, your dreams , plans, and ambitions are put to the side. I am sorry that I have pushed them away, and while you settle in a work you hardly like , I have never heard anything from you against me.

But please do not ever think that I have forgotten them. Never for one second consider that what you have given me today in my nothingness will become a stupor of thought. I will remember them. I will always remember your love for me. And in the coming days whether I rise or fall, I will always be grateful that I have you and I will never regret everything that has happened to me because of you.

They say that God hears and answers our prayers. Id like to think that whatever trials we or I have today, that they have a purpose in the end. That all will work out soon for the good. I know that I have been battling them for almost a decade now, and to be honest I am very weary.My life is in a mess right now. I am lost, and all of my plans were destroyed. 

 But I do not lose hope to dream a hindsight later on, because while my pleas to the heavens seem abandoned at this moment, I must never forget that once upon a time that I have an answered prayer too, because Natdem I know that deep in my heart that God gave me you.

I love you sweetiepie and sorry sa tanan,

Albert

September 9, 2015

Aug. 9, 2015

Dear Sweetiepie,

I just would like to use this medium to express the feelings I have right now.

Today, I feel so discouraged with my life. I feel that I have made a wrong decision to stay in this company or in this job. The work itself is fine and the workloads I have are also bearable. However, I have this strange feeling that this might not the work for me. I feel so stagnant and not growing in any way. I didn't have any recognition of the things I have done right which makes me think that I am doing everything wrong. It seems that I am not perfectly fit in this field. It also makes me wonder why I need to experienced a lot of insults, hardships, and struggles during the process of getting this job. And even if I already have this job, I felt so discouraged because I think I am bot doing well anymore and Im not being productive. Maybe I am already exhausted with the things I am doing right now. I wanted to escape but I cannot. I need a job. I need this. I dont know how to be productive in this field. Why people are receiving such good recognitions with this job while I cannot have one. Im not being competitive. I just want to do my job well.

On the other hand, sweetiepie, as usual, you are still my one and only strength that keeps me going. Every adjustments that I have, every major decisions that I make, you are always with me. You are always my hero. When I am with you, I feel so happy that I can totally forget all the deadlines. And I want to experience that feeling again and again.

More than 7 years had passed yet I still cant get enough of you. All the long long time spent together are still not enough. I guess the need for us to be together forever is increasing. (Hehehe) I want you to know that I feel so good and great when Im with you. And I want to be in that feeling everyday. I want you to know, sweetiepie, that you are always the reason I survive. You are the reason for both of my eyes to open every morning. You are the reason why I am strong and can conquer all the insults, struggles, and trials thrown upon me. You are the only energy I have in the middle of this tiredness. You are the only recognition I have in the middle of disappointments and failures. I may not be a survivor in the workfield I have now at least I tried to be one because of you.

It is also clear to me that you have more feelings of disappointments than me. I know that you always hit the bottom rock of your life but I am so proud of you for trying to be the best. I want you to know that I am always be proud of you no matter what. I see all your struggles and trials and I also see all your efforts and good desires. I am praying that someday, God will grant all the desires of our hearts in his own perfect time. And I assure you that I am always here with you waiting for that perfect time. You are indeed an inspiration to me. You are my love. With you, my life begins.

I love you very much sweetiepie. I am missing you every day. I know we can survive the trials we have right now. I know, someday, our sun will shine.... :-) Happy monthsarry sweetiepie. Happy 88 months together.



Positively hoping,

Natdem

This will be my last letter for this blog. Like everything in this life there is a beginning and there is also an end.

Almost 5 years ago I received this letter on my birthday:

"09 Aug 2010

Dear Sweetiepie,

It's your birthday today. Happy birthday. hehe  Happy 27th months too. I wish I could give you all the most expensive gifts, shirts, shoes, perfumes. I wish I could give you some but only a letter I can afford right now. I cant even afford to buy you a card .I wish I can offer you the world. I really wanna make you happy, but I cant afford to buy any.
But despite all these, I can offer you my world. I love you so much. I know that time will come that I can afford to buy you these things. But for now my love is all that I can offer. Again Im sorry for eveyrthing - for always giving you problems.
Im praying to always give you good health and that you will be happy always. Though our plans are not again working now, Im still happy that I have you and Im with you. Even if we are constrained financially, I know everything will be fine. Lets just set again our plan come other time. Im sory if we cant make everything now.
I love you albert. Though my love for you is just this plain and simple, it cannot be measured or equalled. Happy Birthday.""

I love this letter. This letter has been very special to me then, and it could have been more important to me now. I came upon this letter accidentally today while I was looking for medicines, and this may be the answer to everything.
I started making this blog when I got home from my mission, I used this to replace my journal which I have been accustomed to writing everyday back in the mission. This is my life for the span of almost a decade now. And if you read it you can perfectly tell that my life revolved only on one person. But today it will end.
Natdem, I can no longer run after you. I have proven my love to you countless of times where I even sleep in bus stations. or where I never sleep at all. You and I both know that the things weve both been through.  I have spent 1/3 of my life with you. Almost everyday I look forward in taking care of you, everyday of my life I spend thinking about your welfare. IF you have eaten if youre sick, if youre driving safe. I would help you from your assignments to your job interviews and most of the time I would say to myself  if only I can do these things for you I would do it themselves. I even prayed and said that I would rather not become a lawyer or succeed in life just so you would succeed in everything you do.
Thats why it is so unfair in my part, for loving someone so much amidst poorness and difficulty and be with her during those times of failure and mistakes, and now that I am in the middle of failures and poorness and difficulty and find myself not only being alone, but also condemned , judged and abandoned. I really thought that because you have experience hardship yourself, that of all the people in the world youre the best person who can understand me. But instead youre the first person to condemn me.
I wish there was a way to let you know that I am not lazy. That taking the bar twice is harder than any job in the world, and failing both is even worse. I wish you can understand that it doesnt mean that I am old now and I dont have work is because I do not want to work, its just because I am still starting today. The only difference between us is you were younger when you started, but because of my strange circumstance I only get to start now.
I know perfectly well that love is not enough in this world. people need money and with that comes along happiness. I am not dumb and clueless. People deserve to be happy and succeed in life. however you and i both know that it does not happen overnight.
As an ending to this blog, I want you to know that I dont think of myself  as a high person. If you only knew how I think of myself, its worse than how low you think of me now.You are right, you would be so unlucky to be married to someone like me. I also do not think that I am always right in everything, for how can someone like me be right in anything when I have failed everything in my life. This is not self pity but reality.
Youre a great person. I hope life will grant you more blessings and great things in the future. You deserve everything good. I wish you will always be happy. Im sorry for somehow destroying your dreams and plans like going abroad. I really thought I could make you happy the same way I really wanted to pass the bar or get a good job. Everyone wants a successful life , and no matter how ironic this may seem to you, everyone also includes me. Im sorry when I said that you are social climber. Its not true. Everyone deserves good things.
I cried reading the letter you gave to me. I know money is very important. Things are also very important. But I would trade any expensive shoe, or shirt, or phone over this letter you sent me 5 years ago. Not because I am unrealistic or emotional, its because money and things are easily found, but a letter as meaningful as this is impossible to find. Just like you.

sorry for everything and goodbye.